All my life, I’ve had people worry about me. And by people, I mean certain people within my family and certain close friends of mine. And, I mean…to an extent, I totally understand given my disability and all… Especially for my family, I can see how me being on my own alone would be sort of scary for them. All my life, they’ve had to care for and nurture me, protect me from harm, and all that jazz. It’s only natural that they would worry now.
Lately though, I feel (because of certain events that have occurred) people have been worrying about me a lot more than usual. I get it though, they love me. I know. ….and I love all of you for caring sooooo very much, trust me. <3
But let this be a sense of reassurance… for those in my family especially. You’ve raised me well… and YES, Everything you’ve taught me, all the advice you’ve given me…it’s with me every day.
For beauty advice, everything you’ve said to me growing up, grandma, I’ve taken into consideration… eyeliner and mascara, yes I use it. Red lipstick, still working on that. Parting my hair to the side, hated it before but yes I do that now. And, POND’S Moisturizing Cream has become a part of my daily routine.
For fashion and accessories, I get my inspiration from my cousins (Michele, you especially <3). At the same time, I can still hear the voice(s) of both my grandmothers every time I shop for new clothes. So, yes…I try to be sexy, but classy…always, or at least most of the time. …Haha, kidding.
For living expenses and household related issues, I hear my mom and my grandpa. They were always (and still are) talking to me about managing my money wisely, keeping things as organized as possible, and respecting the other person’s space (in regards to having roommates).
For friendship and social advice, I hear my mom especially… the two quotes that have stuck with me most…
“be the best friend anyone could ask for.”
“you need to learn how to say no sometimes, and not be so nice all the time. don’t let people take advantage of you.”
Sometimes I also hear my grandma Karen…
“don’t be afraid to speak your mind. it’s ok to be a bitch if necessary.”
For navigational advice, I listen my grandpa… one thing I remember when he taught me how to drive…
“don’t hesitate to take the long way around (if stuck in traffic), or panic if you take the wrong turn. A right and three lefts will usually get you back in the direction you really want to go.”
When it comes to dating and love advice (or anything related to that subject), I hear a mixture of the three women in my life… my mom, my grandma Connie, and my grandma Karen. Besides the basic, “make sure they respect and cherish you”…some of the things they’ve said include:
“Make sure you know how to cook, clean the house, and do laundry. No one’s gonna wanna marry a girl who doesn’t know how to do any of that.”
“Most men love a strong and independent woman.”
“Your body is your most prized possession, treasure it.”
“If he doesn’t have rough hands, he’s not hardworking.”
“Don’t change for anyone. Whoever you end up with will love you for who you are.”
And lastly, for my safety, well…don’t worry. I try not to stay out past a certain time unless I’m with someone else. And, that is why I carry various self-defense items in my bag and have certain people on speed dial. :) And, I’ve made friends who take very good care of me, and worry about me also…and I’m sure would come running in a heartbeat if I was ever in trouble. :)
So yes, rest assured. Family, I am fine. :) Trust me, your words run through my head on a daily basis!